Benefits for Your Partner
A common fear of birth partners, is that a doula will take their place, and they will become an accessory to the birth experience. It’s just as common for those same partners to become the most enthusiastic doula advocates after they’ve had a doula by their side during the birth of their child.
The truth is, a doula provides incredible support for BOTH the laboring person AND their partner. This is how:
- A doula lets your partner participate at his/her own comfort level.
- Your partner will be less stressed about not remembering what he/she learned from books and classes.
- You partner will feel more confident by having a ‘behind the scenes’ guide, giving him/her tips, reminder and suggestions.
- You partner will feel less pressure to perform, allowing him/her to just experience and even enjoy the birth.
- If the birth turns long, a doula allows your partner to take much needed breaks without feeling guilty.
Here are snippets and links to two of my favorite dad-written articles, about how happy they were to hire a doula:
“Consider: whenever you try a potentially lethal activity like, say, scuba diving or parachuting, you are paired with an experienced instructor possessing technical expertise. The same should apply when a woman attempts to extract a baby from her loins. Doctors and nurses don’t count, because their real patient is the baby.” From “I Challenge You to a Doula” by Daddy Confidential (read more…)