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Showing up at Your Birth, with Shalome Stone

The Birthful Podcast: Episode #83

Here’s the thing about preparing for birth: you can read all the books, take all the classes, listen to all the podcasts, set up a dream birth team, but no amount of preparation will get the birthing done for you. So, are you doing the inner work that will allow you to step up and own your birth? Rockstar Birth Mentor, Shalome Stone tell us more. Stay tuned.


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What we talked about:

  • What does it mean to own your birth? Why does it this matter?
  • What can you do to prepare to truly show up at your birth?
  • Pregnancy period as an opportunity to prepare for birth. Will you use it wisely?
  • “Going with the flow is not a birth plan”
  • The benefit for inner work during pregnancy
  • Reflecting on how you want to feel during birth
  • The benefit for outer work during pregnancy
  • Where and with whom will you birth?
  • Watching out for red flags
  • Your “birth bouncers” and “birth cheerleaders”
  • Being ok with the “woo”
  • Letting your body’s reactions guide you during pregnancy and birth
  • Facing and embracing your fears
  • Surrendering is not the same as giving up control
  • Learning from birth stories
  • What if you have a cesarean? The possibility of positive cesarean births


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Bonus goodies for you!

Shalome has decided to give a FREE issue of the magazine to all new Rockstar Mamas

Shalome Stone
Courtesy of Shalome Stone

Shalome Stone, Rockstar Birth Mentor

Shalome Stone wants to live in a world where women approach their birth with excitement, knowledge and a sense of power.  A highly-medicalised hospital birth and 2 sensational home births taught her the importance of putting the trust back into a woman’s innate ability to birth beautifully.

Shalome is the Founder and Editor of the Rockstar Birth Magazine  the Rockstar Birth Radio podcast, Rockstar Birth TV webinar series, and the online interactive Rock Your Birth program. All designed to remind you of one important truth – that you are BORN to birth, mama. Everything you need is already inside you. You can start your Rockstar Birth journey by connecting with Shalome at shalome [at] rockstarbirth [dot] com, at, or on Facebook.



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Title music:Vibe Aceby Kevin MacLeod, from the Free Music Archive / CC BY (edited for length).

Sponsorship music:Air Hockey Saloon” by Chris Zabriskie, from the Free Music Archive / CC BY (edited for length).

Adriana Lozada



I enjoyed hearing the conversation about birth plans. To add another analogy — Birth plans are much like wedding plans. It’s good to HAVE plans, it’s really good to know what you want, but there seems to be a line that if you cross it and are *too* controlling you set yourself up for major disappointment not only on that day, but it colors your memory for the rest of your life. So if you had some non-negotiables at your wedding and you KNOW you would be dissatisfied for the rest of your life (maybe you MUST have a church wedding? Or dancing? Or some silly/funny/fun activities?) then know that about yourself and plan it in. But relax about the details that don’t matter as much to you (What if the bridesmaids wear their own style dress in the chosen color instead of the same dress? Maybe you don’t care whether people bring their children to the ceremony or not. Perhaps you’re content to use your 2nd choice for reception since the first choice was already booked for your day?)

KNOW which things would mean the world to you, and which things you have a preference for but realize it’d be okay if that changed. For me it REALLY mattered to avoid induction because I wanted desperately to have a vaginal birth after my mother had all 7 of her children by C-section. It was also very important that delayed cord clamping was done. But I ended up not caring about being strapped down in bed for the majority of the time – even though I thought I’d prefer to have intermittent monitoring. Don’t let the medical professionals bully you out of your “must haves” that’s what your husband or doula can help with!

Adriana Lozada

Love the analogy! It’s so important to prepare, but once the day arrives, enjoy it as much as you can.