I am a doula, so you may think this post is biased. I assure you, it is not. Matter of fact, the reason I became a doula is because I myself didn’t have one for the birth of my daughter. It’s a decision that both my husband and I regret. My birth was as close as can be to what I’d laid out on my birthplan. Hire a midwife – check. No induction – check. No pain meds – check. Move all I want, no artificial rupture of membranes, labor in the tub, vaginal birth, wait for cord clamping, immediate skin to skin, delay baby procedures… check, check, check!
But it was still hard, lonely, painful and miserable. We had taken independent childbirth classes, read all the books, and thought we were prepared. We weren’t.
A doula would have come over to our house and help me realize that I was having incredible back pain, instead of thinking it was just part of labor. She wouldn’t have let me sit at the top of the stairs for hours, but would have encouraged and helped me to move around and get into positions that would help get my baby’s head off my back. Read more